What do you look for in a significant other?

Sheng Wang Joke of the Day:

I took a shit in a toilet with no water. I told my friends that I had to drop the kids off at the skate park.

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So we asked all around what they look for in a significant other.

Marius said that the girl should be funny.

Nolan said the girl's gotta be someone who he can talk to.

I said that I look for standards, moral principles.

Christine said the guy should be kind and someone who could make her laugh.

She seemed to put an emphasis on kind, and that's what's been tripping be me out. Kind isn't really the same thing as nice, friendly, compassionate or having manners. Kind means something else. In the word kind, there is an inherent vulnerability. And there seems to be no room for something like that in a man's world. Kind is a *large* type of vulnerability. It means turning the other cheek or letting someone screw you over. For men, being kind seems to contradict the tenets of manhood of being strong, courageous, assertive, or sometimes, being honest. I asked her to name someone kind, and she did. But I know the person to have a mean side, and not the type of malicious mean side. It is the type of mean that can make us laugh at the jokes on MAD TV. By implication, one cannot enjoy the offensive jokes on MAD TV and the ones that are pretty much standard in American society if you are ALL-OUT kind, which means being kind is boring in some situations. Where I went to high school, you could not really be afford to be kind unless you could tolerate having a low self-esteem. Everyone else was unkind to battle everyone being unkind, but it was really just teenagers who weren't sure of themselves.

Then I asked, "How do you expect to find kind?"

She said, "You just either are or aren't." (which kinda sucks if you're a guy trying to prove yourself and you are innately NOT kind)

But that phrase can go all ways: "You're either funny or you're not." "You either have standards or you don't" "You either are able to talk to Nolan or you aren't."

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Kanye West's Mom Died :(

I give the woman a lot of respect for raising a son who was THAT creative and believed in himself THAT much. No one talks about how difficult it is to raise a child to believe in himself/herself. Everyday you're self-esteem is being tested by the outside world. The kids at school tell you you're not good enough. The commercials tell you that you're not cool if you don't buy this or that. You gotta wear the right clothes. The super competitive people make you feel less-than-competent. Donda West is proof that if you raise someone to be strong, EVERYONE benefits.

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Is it possible to be kind in today's age?

Any words for Donda West?